Regardless of what you may have seen or heard in the media, we are two completely normal people with all the same problems as everyone else. We believe that as long as both parties truly want to make the relationship work, then it can work. We both struggled with the idea that there are vast resources to help people find a partner, but very few resources exist to help to strengthen relationships once you find them, or help couples once you think you have found your potential mate or life partner.
We practice what we preach. Rest assured we have done every single exercise we suggest, and all of the information we give is backed by science and data at every possible opportunity. In building every tool, we sit down and try to determine every way it can go wrong, then how to guard against it, rinse and repeat until we come to what we believe is the best result we can produce.
This extensive process has led to three things: first, it's why we suggest starting with our beginner course. The beginner course will give you a foundation that is equivocal to ensuring you both agree to a paint color before one person comes home to a bedroom color that leads to an argument! Second, it is our basis for our "things to keep in mind" section of the webinars, that will prevent accidental pitfalls when handling tough topics. Finally, it led to quite a few awkward and wine-filled situations that usually ended in laughter, because some of the exercises are weird (but they work for bonding and laughing if nothing else).
Click below to see how this all plays out in our courses!
Dr. Jessica is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, and is a nationally recognized expert in Trauma-Focused Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), trauma, and relationships. She has been studying relationships for almost 20 years and is a sought after national speaker. She presents regularly at local, national and international levels on topics related to childhood trauma, relationships, TF-CBT, forensic evaluation of families, and attachment and resilience. Dr. Griffin has been featured on NPR, Fox News, the Insider, iHeartRadio, the New York Post, ENews, the Daily Mail, and other media outlets and has served as a psychologist and relationship expert on several television docuseries about marriage and divorce on A&E’s Lifetime Television network including: the Seven Year Switch (seasons 1-3), Married at First Sight (seasons 6-8), Honeymoon Island, and Married at First Sight Happily Ever After.
In short, this background makes Dr. Jessica our go-to resource for topics such as attachment and relationships, healthy communication, sex and intimacy, co-parenting after divorce, handling a spouse's trauma, whether past or present, and other topics. For Love Builder, she brings all of the data that backs our trainings, suggestions, and exercises. Then, obviously, presents that data in a fun way to make your relationship something you brag about!
Living on the opposite side of his brain from Dr. Jessica, Jonathan brings the male perspective as well as playing devil’s advocate and test dummy for all materials in the Love Builder courses. If there’s one thing you should know about Jonathan when it comes to Love Builder, it’s that he was a massive skeptic that looked for every opportunity to tell Dr. J why everything/anything in these courses was wrong. Unfortunately for Jon (though truly fortunately for Jon), and fortunately for you, that didn't happen very often.
Then Dr. Jessica said she had a vision of being able to positively affect couples and help people on a grander scale (she really does love love-stories). Jonathan asked her why she didn't just go for it and the two of them together developed the concept of Love Builder in their kitchen one evening while chopping lettuce. This is where Jonathan’s role really comes into play. Jon runs the back-end of everything Love Builder to make her dream a reality, and works hard to make your experience as seamless and enjoyable as possible. So, if you have any suggestions/improvements, email him at firstname.lastname@example.org!